A letter to my dear son as he grows up…


Inspired by a fellow blogger’s article… (All credit goes to The Birthright Blog!) 8)

I know you can’t wait until your next birthday, until you finish school, until you leave home. Your childhood is precious. Don’t be too eager to grow up.

The responsibilities of adulthood come soon enough and you will be an adult longer than you will have been a child. Yet you are on the threshold of your future, the decisions you make today have huge ramifications of the quality of life you will lead.

There is nothing new under the sun. The formula for success has been invented. Learn and apply it.

It doesn’t matter that “everyone else is doing it,” maintain your standards and never lose sight of your values.

Avoid anything that leads to addiction, master your life, don’t be mastered by substances. Yours is the generation of reality TV. Try not to get hooked on it. Get out and experience the world instead of being consumed by the melodrama in other people’s lives.

And when it comes to your day, work first and play later. Do the dishes before you watch television, your homework before you talk to your friends  Life has a way of falling into place if you approach it this way. However, always remember to play, and that you are never too old to play.

And then rest. The Sabbath is God’s way of reminding us to take time out to rest and rejuvenate our soul, body and mind.

When it comes to choosing a career, where possible, live and do what you love. Choose an occupation that you are good at, and passionate about. Work hard and work smart. No employer will ever pay you what you are worth, so learn the art of negotiating a good package, or time off when you need it.

Financial future…

Every time you get an income, avoid the temptation to spend it all. Be clever with money, learn how to handle it and don’t give the reins of your financial future to someone else.

Avoid gambles and get rich quick schemes. Save, invest and give back. There are a lot of things that money can buy, but the most valuable resource you will ever have is time.

When it comes to relationships, love is as love does. Forget what they say and pay attention to what they do. One day, you will fall in love and you will wonder if she is “the one”.

Remember that time heals most wounds and dulls others. Although it may not seem like it at the time, you will get over your first heartbreak.

Find and keep solid boys. They will be your lifeline. Avoid the temptation to hang out only with people who tell you what you want to hear. Have one or two friends who “call it like it is” and speak truth into your life. Keep away from people who tell you about others. They will tell others about you.

Over the course of your life, you will encounter many nagging questions. If you still have doubts about a decision, whether it is to take or quit a job, get married or leave a relationship, sleep on it.


  1. This article sounds like ME, when i become a DAD one day. The first person’s perspective gives it even more life! I’ll def archive it

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